She called Dad's Hospice provider and APS on me, and I wasn't even in the home. I find the fraud, and manipulation of care givers to be overwhelming. I moved Dad, but meetings wer held without my knowledge or presence and reports filed about me that I just found out about. What would it take to form a non-profit advocacy program to provide support for family members who are goint it alone, and have no form of support or protection against this kind of abuse.
Carol
Dear roxlang, we secured a funeral contract for our parents. There are other ways, as well. Have you contacted an Elder Law Attorney? Be careful who you trust, and get second opinions. I did it all for my parents, without an attorney, by paying off past debt. You can talk to Medicaid themselves, and they can supply you with a list of guidelines.
Norene
I relocated Dad to another group home and he seems contented. He asked me to please not make him go back to the former home. He stated they watched me every move I mace, they didn;t like me, and would not let me talk to you on the phone. He said they always talked about you when you left. The home he is in now is happy and light.
I have learned that attorneys are expensive and really have no control except by going to court which has proven to be cost prohibitive. That's why we as adult children must advoicate for our parents. The system is more experienced in fraud, and deceit, and have many "games" they run on family members who know too much. I had one director in a former facility state to me "Let the games begin" I now understand what she was referring to. I am writing a book on my personal experiences that hopefully will open eyes to the neglect and abuse that our parents go through in their senior years.
Thanks so much.