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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Kmarie, I understand you not wanting to share much information, but I’m glad you did.
Your mother should now have a caseworker or someone at the facility you can speak with. You need to advocate for your father and tell this person where your mother was Baker Acted that she is a danger to herself and to others and can no longer live in your home.
Where were you when the person was speaking with your father? If you know what was said, was this a face to face conversation? If so, you should have spoken up and described what you witnessed. If this was over the phone, why didn’t you call the person back and say, “Wait a minute. You do not have a true picture of the situation.” Your father is afraid of your mother.
If you were a witness to the head slap, you should have called the police immediately. What if, God forbid, she becomes so angry and out of control, she goes to the kitchen and grabs a knife? My uncle did that to my aunt.
This is much more than “embarrassing”, my dear. This is downright dangerous. Your mother is out of control, and probably has been for a while. Your father has been too frightened to say anything about it. But now that they live with you, you are witnessing it. If you don’t advocate for your father, who will? Your mother cannot come home. Refuse to allow them to discharge her to your home. If it’s too late and she’s already there, the next time she shows any sign of going off the wall, video it. Show the video to the police.
Sitting by, witnessing this abuse and doing nothing is not an option.
kmarie, we need more information if we are even going to try to offer advice. If feel your father is in immediate danger, call 911. If this is an ongoing thing, call your local Adult Protective Services office and report her.
Thank you . I am sorry. I did not want to write too much. She is verbally and physically abusive. They are both 80. The just moved in with me 2 months ago.
so far she has threatened to leave, by plane tickets and all. This was because she asked him to get her a glass of water, and I got up and got it. she hit him in the head. Then changes her mind. the other day she told him she took a bunch of pills. So I called 911. they took her away. I am in florida, baker act. she had to go. She is now in a care facility for 72 hours. I found the pills in the bathroom garbage after. It is just mind games. This is embarrassing. But I do need some advice.
The dr called him asked him can he deal with her at home again. He said well, I will try. They asked if she was abusive he said well , she did push me once. but she does not mean it. He said but verbally yes. He defends her.
Why are they asking your father's opinion about bringing her home when she (they) live with you, if you feel you don't want her back you get a vote too! I think too often docs and other authorities are blasé about abuse when it is a woman abusing a man, would they have the same opinion if the roles were reversed??
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Your mother should now have a caseworker or someone at the facility you can speak with. You need to advocate for your father and tell this person where your mother was Baker Acted that she is a danger to herself and to others and can no longer live in your home.
Where were you when the person was speaking with your father? If you know what was said, was this a face to face conversation? If so, you should have spoken up and described what you witnessed. If this was over the phone, why didn’t you call the person back and say, “Wait a minute. You do not have a true picture of the situation.” Your father is afraid of your mother.
If you were a witness to the head slap, you should have called the police immediately. What if, God forbid, she becomes so angry and out of control, she goes to the kitchen and grabs a knife? My uncle did that to my aunt.
This is much more than “embarrassing”, my dear. This is downright dangerous. Your mother is out of control, and probably has been for a while. Your father has been too frightened to say anything about it. But now that they live with you, you are witnessing it. If you don’t advocate for your father, who will? Your mother cannot come home. Refuse to allow them to discharge her to your home. If it’s too late and she’s already there, the next time she shows any sign of going off the wall, video it. Show the video to the police.
Sitting by, witnessing this abuse and doing nothing is not an option.
so far she has threatened to leave, by plane tickets and all. This was because she asked him to get her a glass of water, and I got up and got it. she hit him in the head. Then changes her mind. the other day she told him she took a bunch of pills. So I called 911. they took her away. I am in florida, baker act. she had to go. She is now in a care facility for 72 hours. I found the pills in the bathroom garbage after. It is just mind games. This is embarrassing. But I do need some advice.
The dr called him asked him can he deal with her at home again. He said well, I will try. They asked if she was abusive he said well , she did push me once. but she does not mean it. He said but verbally yes. He defends her.
Do I have the right to call or say?