My ex boyfriend has asked me to move In and to be his in home care giver but he keeps saying that I don't appreciate anything and all's me a b*tch and threatens me throwing my stuff in the garage and threatens to kick me outside treats me like a slave and I am not even on a payroll yet what can I do about this.
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Even if he were the nicest guy in the world - which it sounds like he's NOT - you wouldn't owe him anything. He'll figure things out for himself once you're gone. Leave.
Call a domestic abuse hotline and ask for help getting out. Follow through.
You are not losing your mind. Your mind is telling you to save yourself and you are not listening.
What would you tell a friend who would do this to themselves?
Wish the caregivers here had the power to help you leave immediately.
Throwing your stuff in the garage is a physical act of aggression. The physical escalates from there.
Do you have a "Go-bag" packed yet, because you might need to leave without any belongings at all.
You owe this man nothing. He may need help that no Caregiver may be able to give.
If it is, then you give him a bill for services rendered to date and move out. If it is not, then you move on with your life and disconnect from him completely.
Many states, any monetary value under 3k can be pursued through small claims courts and is fairly cheap to do.
He is not your responsibility and his actions mean that you don't owe him or his needs any consideration. Get out now.
Get a different job and move out of his place. He is abusing you by constantly threatening to throw you and your things out in the street. He will always treat you like a slave and once the actual payment starts he will double-down and treat you even worse because you're getting paid.
Live-in caregiver work is about the worst and most miserable job on earth. It's ten times worse if you're doing it for a person you have a history with.
Please pack your stuff up and go. Even if you have to take another live-in position temporarily do it. At least it won't be as bad as what you're living in now.
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