She expects me to sit down every time I go to clean and cook for her until she's through complaining about her son's or what ever else is on her mind. When I don't she calls her sister and tells her lies to get sympathy. In return her sister has threatened to turn me in for elder abuse. I don't get paid to help her. They have it set up so in exchange for helping her I get to live on her land. I have very little income and barley keep my power bill paid. My only source of income is if I sell something on FB Marketplace place. What do I do ?
If you are not getting paid you do one of the following:
Ask that you start getting paid for the hours you work. Stipulate that you will quit if you do not get paid.
"Living on the land" is NOT fair compensation for caregiving.
Stop caregiving. If the person is a vulnerable senior and there is no family that will care for her if she can not care for herself call APS and or your State's Elder Abuse number and report an unsafe situation.
No matter what you do if she hits you
Leave the room, call 911 and tell the dispatcher that you have been hit, you feel unsafe.
Press charges. Otherwise they are not going to do anything and the cycle will continue. But you will have to leave the property.
Then one realizes there isn't an income to pay for everyday needs. No income to pay for health insurance/doctor/dentist. No income to put gas in the car. No money going into Social Security/Medicare. Zero money going into savings. Does selling items on-line even pay for your groceries? Where are you getting items to sell to even get a small income?
I would pack up and go to a homeless shelter. Unless you are living in your own trailer, find a camp ground for the time being. Large stores are always looking for shelving help.
Do you even have a written contract? No?
The person you are caring for sounds like they are mentally ill or has dementia, or both. Run away... this isn't going to end well for you.
Get out of this situation . Go stay at a homeless shelter if you have to while you look for a job , then find a room to rent or share an apartment .
Or as already suggested , if you have a mobile home , move it off this person’s land.
How old are you? Do you have SS? Medicaid for health? You need to get your ducks in a row. Go to Social Services and see if they can help. Maybe putting u up in a motel with food vouchers. Help find u a place within your means. The only one who can get you out of this situation is you.
Chances are, they’ll give you some go-away money.
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