Good evening! My elderly mom of 94 yrs is on hospice for CHF. But she has breast cancer too. She does not see a doctor anymore, but her breast cancer is thought to be Inflammatory breast cancer. She thought she had a cyst in the breast back in April or May of this year, but her breast has been red and inflamed with a mass in it for a few months now. The mass is growing. From what I’ve read on IBC, it is an aggressive form of cancer. She does not want to treat for it. But the mass is hard and growing and smells bad. It seems to be growing from the middle of the left breast to under her arm. What will happen if she doesn’t treat for this? Hospice is keeping an eye on it, but that’s about it. They said if she needs it wrapped, they will handle it. But how is this going to go without treatment?
My sister died of this and we put a tray of kitty litter under the bed to help with the odor that the cream didn't contain.
When it spread she could not be moved because her spine would spontaneously break. It was pretty rough. So prepare yourself.
I am sorry that your mom is facing this. Great big warm hug to both of you.
Encourage her to utilize the pain meds if she needs them and the anti anxiety meds.
They are "specialists" when it comes to caring for things like this.
Hospice will help manage the pain. They would have done this with the original diagnosis that made her eligible for Hospice to begin with. With the IBC she will probably have more pain sooner and they can teach you how to manage it.
In my opinion this is a wise decision that your mom has made. The outcome with or without treatment will be the same. The big difference is she will not be filling her body with chemicals that really will not prolong or improve her life.
Give your mom a hug for me, tell her she is a brave, wise woman.
and so red. Her nipple is inverted and there is discharge. She is in denial and keeps saying she has cystic breast disease and that’s what it is. She says she is just ignoring it and hoping it just goes away. No one is arguing with her. Just making sure she’s as comfortable as she can be.
"They said if she needs it wrapped, they will handle it."
I've worked at a Cancer Center. If it is smelling bad, I wonder when they think they should handle it?
It it is left untreated, I feel like it may spread.
It is a blessing that your mom has lived to be 94 years old. I am so sorry you all are going through this. Blessings to you.
We recently had a poster ask about what would happen if they chose no treatment, lumpectomy, or other, for breast cancer. This is one possible outcome for her, as I know you know.
All the answers on wound treatment etc. are very good.
Many hugs to you and your mom.
I am so sorry that you are watching your mom in this situation. It’s very hard to see a parent deteriorate.
Having hospice on board is wonderful. Those Angel's are so kind and capable. When my Father was dying this summer the hospice staff was as supportive to me and Mom as they were to Dad. They did everything to keep him pain free and calm right till the end. And they continue to offer after-care and support to Mom even now, months later.
Best of luck to you as you continue this journey.
Having took care of my mom over 15 years it sucked the life out of me; when she died age 90 it nearly destroyed me and I'm slowly recovering as I had to completely sacrifice my life for her. Her care will impact the rest of my life in terms of savings and retirement (I probably won't be able to). Even before then I could only work part time because even before that she had some Alzheimer's but not to the point she wandered. That came much, much later which necessitated around the clock 24/7 care. At age 60 I grew as much dependent on her as she did me--we needed each other. I was her complete life support: Tube feedings, bowel schedule, cleaning, managing her diabetes with insulin, etc etc etc but she did very well and died of other natural causes not related to Alzheimer's (she had liver cancer but had NO symptoms until one week before she died!) Even her labs were good up until that time.
Irony all the years I battled her Alzheimer's it was something else that killed her. She could have been a walkie-talkie self caring person the same would have happened to her. God took her life from me.
But I gave her a very comfortable life, and she died in her own home. Never needed any kind of pain meds or psychotropics. Hospice was amazed just how comfortable she was without drugs. they came over often that last week of her life but she was good. Her death was incredibly peaceful--she merely opened her eyes, took two deep breaths and died.
The only time she moaned was when I had to turn and clean her--I never did let her lie in her waste. I kept her clean! She always hated getting cleaned like that for years. But at least I knew she could respond to discomfort, so I knew absoutely certain she was comfortable without narcotics. Other than that she was peaceful as could be. She also died with perfect skin. Not a single mark.
Working now, back at school..I'm slowly recovering from her loss. But that's what aged parents do to their kids who opt to care for them.