What is the best way to lift up my mom after she falls without hurting her?

It's not about hurting her, what about you and your brother?

Falling 3 times in a day is a red flag, time for her to be placed and be taken care of by trained professionals.

In the meantime, call 911.

Did you call a Nurse, Doctor or Emergency Services to check Mom out? To ask why she fell & check for any injuries?

Speak with your mom's doctor about the falls. Find out if there is a medical reason and ask about getting a prescription for occupational therapy to strengthen her muscles and balance. Also get an evaluation if a walker or cane would help, and perhaps a wheel chair for long distances. Medicare will pay for them if you get a prescription. There are also types of lifts and lifting equipment that can be prescribed. If your mom has dementia, she may not be able to learn how to use a walker or cane. My mother (she had dementia and was living in a memory care facility) was falling often (fortunately she fell softly and didn't hurt herself). She weighed 90 lbs and I couldn't lift her by myself because she didn't assist. In her facility, sometimes it took 2 people to transfer her from bed to wheel chair. In her memory care facility, staff was required to call EMS every time there was a fall to evaluate whether she needed to go to the hospital. Falls can be dangerous, if bones get broken or with head concussions. Eventually as her dementia got worse, we put my mom on hospice care with a 'No Hospitalization' directive. It was too disruptive for her to be going to the hospital constantly. My husband's sister had a medical alert device, and she'd press the button when she fell. They would come to her house and help get her up, and ask her if she wanted to go to the hospital for an evaluation. Have a plan for a time when your mom's care may be too much for you and your brother to handle on your own. Your (and your Mom's) basic options are getting in home caregivers to help or placing her in an assisted living/memory care/nursing home facility.

The best thing to do when mom falls is to call 911.

Have the EMTs get her up and assess why she is falling and if she needs to be checked medically.

Why is she falling so frequently?

Why can't she get herself up?

Has she had an assessment recently for Physical Therapy?

Have you tried bringing a sturdy chair to where she is and having her use it to get herself up?

Falling three times in one day is concerning, and you'll probably want to get her checked out for any changes in mentation or movement. That aside, please call 911, someone is going to get hurt if you keep trying to lift her on your own. Usually EMTs come in pairs and they can certainly help her up AND give her a quck once-over to assess for possible bone breaks.

There comes a point where family care at home becomes dangerous both for the ill person and the care givers. Handling patients requires both training and strength.

At least in my neighborhood, call 911, say it's not an emergency but you need help and they will send EMTs to pick up your patient and put her wherever you want so she is safe and you have not hurt YOURSELF. My experience with Tualatin Valley Fire and Rescue was excellent. I know in some communities there is a limit to how many times they can come to bail you out; but my experience was they come if you need them. It brings tears to my eyes to recollect how kind and considerate our guys/women are. And gentle. And concerned with MY safety as well as my husband's. I say God Bless them and the taxpayers who fund them!

As Barb mentioned, a sturdy chair will work. My mom fell quite a bit by not locking the brakes on her rollator walker. It rolled out from under her. I hated that thing. She didn't want 911 called but used a chair to get up. Why is your mom falling so much?

Wow - awesome responses with great advice and wisdom! I like the comment that just because you can, maybe you shouldn't!

I always assess the damage first prior to attempting a lift. One time she had a brain bleed and I could have risked further injury. Timely help is of the essence!

My wife weighs 103 Lbs soaking wet and I top out at 245. My problem is she can't use her legs nor hold onto me. (Having a bad back and neck don't help me, but odds are in my favor!) I use a gate belt and create leverage with my elbows on my knees to boost her up enough to scoot a stool under her with a foot for the first phase. I then slide the stool to a location where her back is against her chair/walker. I finish the lift with my legs ad scoot her back into a seated position. She won't allow me to use a safety belt to keep her in, so I adjust the chair back so her center of gravity reduces the chance of falling forward.

Hope this helps! God bless you for what you do and remember, help is out there!

YOU do not lift her.
YOU call 911 and ask for a LIFT ASSIST.
they will send paramedics that have been trained to properly, safely help someone up off the floor.
In most cases if there is no transport to the hospital there is no charge for the call.