What makes these old, hateful, disrespectful people think we HAVE to stay and take this crap? Today, I feel like throwing in the towel, and letting the State come in and hopefully find an exorcist to help my inconsiderate, hateful, foul-mouthed, ungrateful, unclean, destructive, one cigarette after another puffing Mother. I would not be shocked at all if her head started spinning around and she bled green vomit. This is no joke. This woman is pure, unadulterated EVIL.
If you suspect real evil, the try real love and pray. I'm not religious but if there is real evil then there is probably real good.
I know people tell you to be patient and tolerant but there is a poison personality and it can hurt physically. Frankly, I think it can kill you.
I think you mentioned a social worker involved and if I'm mistaken, I suggest you do just that. Turn her over. It is hard to remain kind to someone who has hurt you mentally all your life, tell the social worker how it has been for you. I did take that advice to heart. The kinder thing for me was to turn my Mom over to someone else. It still hurts but she's in better hands. Very big hug to you.
So are you talking about real evil, as in "gets primary gratification out of hurting others / would be happy to wreck your life", or are you exagerating out of frustration?
Suddenly, I've become busier at work, increased outside activities, travel more, make unpredicatable but brief calls and have limited my visits. if she starts up while i'm visiting her, I listen a little just to let her rant but I can't take too much of it so I try to redirect the conversation, if that fails well oh my! Gotta get going, all is well love ya, smooches.
Gotta save yourself or who will!
I already know that all is well with her business and well being because I've taken care of it and stay in contact with her care givers who by the way are GREAT at relaying information to me and responding to my inquires with great results.