Mom is very unstable standing since breaking hip in2014 and dislocating shoulder 2019. Has shuffled walk and knee gives out 2024. I’m only child cancer heart attack 72 mom 89. She hoards had cats dog in house and enclosed carport. Roaches taken over,
refuses home care and assisted living. I have fl2 papers and working on guardianship, Magistrate had picked up for evaluation but her mind if fine according to test. Was sent home. I have pictures of nasty home nasty puppy pads and refuses to let home be sprayed afraid will hurt animals. Will not leave out for spray.
i am unable to clean and care any longer
Any ideals, I have not been in six days , she told me she doesn’t want me in house. Is guardianship worth it or just revoke my poa APS has been she won’t let in
I would call APS and describe this as you did for us, telling them that this is a senior at risk and in need and you are unable to help her due to your own disabilities.
Ask them to make a wellness check and to help provide care for her and tell you of options available to her.
I'm so sorry for this stressful situation. I wish you better health in your future and peace in your heart about your Mom.
What to do? Sigh. Hmm 😒
Keep trying to steer this or step away..? Or maybe something in the middle?
A position of 'Watch & Wait'.
Consider making welfare phone calls. Consider driveby welfare checks & look for anything really wrong (if you are local). If you know her neighbours, consider asking them to call APS for welfare checks if they don't see her about or have concerns.
All I know about folks that live this way is from some reading about Diogenes Syndrome & from the Hoarders TV show.
There appears to be delusions or rigid thinking, lack of insight, but these issues do not seem to 'fail' screening cognition tests. While a filthy environment may be considered self-neglect, it is not enough to warrant intervention. That bar seems to be set at *danger to self/danger to others*.
You may need to join the *Awaiting a crisis club*. If so, welcome.
But I think without Mom having dementia , I would not seek guardianship , as she is able to make her decisions , even poor ones. Because of Mom’s stubbornness, I think I would also revoke POA and let APS take over.
I’m so sorry , what a terrible situation .