My cousin (Grandma's grandson) is supposed to get married over the summer. If Grandma chooses to go to the wedding, someone will have to take her and be responsible for her the entire time. Does that mean I would have to take her since I'm her caregiver? Or should her grandson and/or his mother (Grandma's daughter) be responsible for taking her? I do not want to go to the wedding. I have social anxiety disorder and I would have anxiety the entire time, even with anti-anxiety meds.
I actually don't think Grandma will want to go. I just wanted to check and see who's responsible for her if she does want to go. That way maybe I can figure something out well in advance. My thinking is that if she were still in an assisted living facility and she wanted to go, her daughter (grandson's mom) would take her. It seems like the same thing should apply here.
You mentioned that Grandmother may not want to go to the wedding, thus that solves the problem as to who is responsible. Plus summer is a few months off, not easy to plan that far ahead.
Now, if Grandmother is determined to attend the wedding, then it would be up to other family members to coordinate Grandmother's travel. She shouldn't travel alone. And whatever you do, don't be guilt into taking Grandmother. I know how uncomfortable agoraphobic can be, you will want to run to a safe quiet place. Hard to do if traveling by plane.
Second, since you can't go then its up to your cousin to find someone to take her and bring her back. As soon as the invitation is received explain this to ur cousin so plans can be made.