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Cindylynn,so many people agree to be a caregiver for a loveone before even realizing the outcome.Caring for a elderly person is like caring for a child.But,truth be told a child is much easier.Because,a child hasn't learned the word hate.
Every elderly person has a darkside you will find you wish you never learned.Based on your topic,Why don't I like my Mom anymore?Sounds like you found the darkside.Reverse the question if you wasn't your Parent's caregiver?Sometimes it's best to let a outsider be a caregiver.Then,you can seat back and enjoy your parents how it should be.
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Cindy, welcome to the crazy, emotional roller coaster that is care giving. There isn't a soul on this site that hasn't gone through what you're dealing with now.

Of course you love your mom. We all love our moms and dads. That's why we feel like such shits when we secretly wish they'd fall off the planet and disappear. That's why we feel so guilty all the time. Yes, it's about HER, but it's about YOU, too. That's why it's so important to find a balance in care giving.

If your mom is able to live on her own, why not try and find her housing with another elderly lady, somewhere close by? You can visit often, have her come visit you, but you can also go home to your husband and have the alone time, ME time and peace that you need.

You don't mention alz or dementia. Is she still of sound mind at this point, able to do things for herself?
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Sounds like you do feel a lot of resentment right now. It's so different living with a parent than caring for her at a distance. In Al-Anon we were constantly told the stewardess in the plane says put the mask on yourself first then on your child. If you get sick, your MS increases in symptoms which it can well do with the stress you are under, how could you be there for your mother? Please put yourself on the front lines of care. Your health is what is most important. Your marriage, your life, then you can take care of your mother's needs.
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