I have FML to take care of my mother with dementia. Sometimes I don't have to take off immediately but it wears me out to the point I can hardly think straight the next day. Would I need to apply for FML for my exhaustion or would it be considered part of taking care of Mom? Thanks!
My therapist and doctors told me a was a stroke waiting to happen or worse.
Remember, you will be of no use to your mother if you are dead. Please get some help. I hope this helps at least a little. Take care of yourself!
As others have said, it’s time to look at a new approach with new assistance - please.
You matter too!
I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in the midst of caring, and part and parcel of that condition is profound exhaustion. It took me literally YEARS to recover from the effects of those seven years, and when deprive of sleep, even over a decade later, I can STILL revert to sleep deprivation symptoms.
Consider whether you’re establishing a fair balance point between caregiving and your own health. No one can really do that but you. As you consider, realize that YOU are an important part of the equation. Sacrificing your life out of love for her is NOT solving a problem that needs to provide for both of you.
I understand that's touchy.......but to be frank, f it.
It may be possible for your mom's Dr. to fill out your ppwrk. Ask.
The goal is to relieve yourself when you're exhausted from this huge thing that's just gonna consume your life and protect yourself from termination.
I resigned. I was a US mail carrier for 18 and a half years until my mom stopped using the toilet.
Your own PCP may need to fill out the FMLA paperwork for you. Every business has their own guidelines for what can be covered. .
Sounds like it is time to get some additional help for you or consider going part time.
Your boss is not allowed to ask why you have FMLA BTW.
The best of luck.
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