My mother has dementia and will soon be 93. The Boaltc, and DHS, I feel, are not doing their part in protecting our loved ones. The facility has frightened my mother into submission. I'd like to know where the justice is for our loving family members? This is so outrageous!!!
Also thinking that this is a troll and thus will no longer be responding.
Your Mother's facility really went right for the jugular in getting guardianship. Don't give up. Write the story up. Keep good notes with dates and notes of who you talk to. Pictures too.
Do you go to Church? Ask for prayer. Talk about it with others. Join a Bible study group. When they ask for prayer requests, open up. You need community support. Clout. Do you have a Dr. in the area you are close with. Make an appointment with him or her, get advice on how to handle the situation with a Dr.
Can your Mother express what she wants? You will have to go back into court regarding the guardianship. They have got her in their clutches. You have a chance of getting her out of there. How is she holding up? If they are like Mother's rogue facility was, they will mess up on other things. They should have thanked you for the letter and told you what they planned to do.
What sort of "trap" did your friend think this meeting was?
Why did you feel the need to request a conference call? Whom did you want included in discussions who was not already there - your sister, or someone else?
The thing is, here is the outline you've given us:
1.You send a polite email asking for greater attention to be paid to your mother's pain relief.
2. The facility says how dare you.
3. You are punished by reduction of visiting hours.
4. The court perversely awards guardianship of your mother to the facility's parent company.
Mm. What else happened? What would the facility's version of events be, for example?
The facility's GP doctor probably won't initiate pain control as it involves strong and addictive drugs. A pain management doctor has to do that. The GP can follow up later once a treatment program is established by the specialist.
If she has money to spend down, she can pay for non-emergency medical transport if the doctor will accept her as a new patient. Additionally, if your mom has to go to a hospital ER for any reason, that may be a good time to tell a doctor of her pain and maybe pain management can be initiated at that stage. Care plan meetings are good, but to really know what's happening with your loved one, someone outside the facility, needs to make personal visits to your mom. Ombudsmen and a local Area Agency on Aging or even an agency that deals with dementia patients may be able to offer some suggestions. For whatever reason your not having success with the snf so look elsewhere for help.
That's where the care plan gets discussed.
What sort of experience/expertise does your friend have?
Corporate guardianship? Meaning that the NH is suing for guardianship? Where is your sister (poa) in all of this?
I was warned not to go to the meeting, friend thought it was trap.
I requested to have a conference call, and was denied.
Two weeks later I was given new hour's of visiting my mom @ the facility: one hour Mon Wed Fri. It a private room.
Two days later, a notice from circuit court. Petition to put my mom in corporate guardianship. I was shocked! I petitioned for guardianship for my mom. The judge didn't follow the law. This county is known for corruption.
I really dilemma /nightmare for my mom, who has dementia, and other pain issues, severe hard of hearing.
Clearly a dispute of some sort is ongoing. I'm a little mystified how anyone can work out the rights and wrongs of it on the basis of current information, though.
E.g., what is meant by "good faith reporting"? By you, to whom, and what are the issues arising from that?
What are the restrictions on visiting your mother? What occurred or was occurring to prompt issuance of these restrictions?
What is Boalte? (Perhaps others are familiar with this term though). How is it, and DHS specifically failing to protect people?
What kind of "facility" and how has it frightened your mother "into submission?"
The query "where is justice" is rhetorical and could mean anything. What kind of justice do you seek?