Social worker called and says my mom has to be discharged home. I asked what home? She sold it. She said, to your house where she came from. I said I already discussed that my house is not safe for her and it was only temporary until her apartment opened. She said well you can look into senior living facilities for her. I said, no that is your job. I do not have POA. She said then I will have to get my supervisor involved. Any other suggestions?
Sometimes selective deafness is a great tool. Use it as much as possible whenever they suggest something will happen that involves you. Just give them that "Who, me?" look and laugh.
If you lived in the area I am in, this would not have been a problem at all. Heck, here, Hospitals highly encourage discharged seniors to go to some type of assistance facility be it AL or NH
Is Mom still getting her apartment? Maybe she can be placed in an Assisted living till then?
Please keep us updated.
Mom's resources pay for mom's housing and care; the SW can discuss with mom what that care looks like.
Get your locks changed today and arrange to be away from your home (vacation?). Call 911 if they drop mom and have her taken back to the hospital.
Tell the social worker that she CAN NOT come to your home. She doesn't live there, she was just visiting while in transition and you ARE NOT able to provide her any care or assistance, PERIOD.
She is financially able to rent a furnished apartment and that's what she needs to do.
I know it is difficult to step back and say no but, if anyone believes her lies, your life will be a living hell and you could lose everything proving you didn't do whatever she decides to accuse you of.
Do not allow them to drop her off at your home no matter what threat they make to you. The supervisor will get involved to find a place for her to land. If your mom has cognitive/memory impairment the county will probably move to acquire guardianship. Then they will control everything. I'm not sure there is any middle ground solutions here. Let us know how it goes. I wish you success in working with social services and the hospital.
Mom needs to be in a facility not your home or her own apartment. Mom wanted you out of it so mom has to figure it out with the social worker.